'A viral video of mums on a girls' trip has made a lot of people angry. I fear we've missed the point.'

A viral video of mothers on a girls’ trip has prompted criticism after US creator Lindsey Bosway asked who was caring for their children at home. The mothers described relying on husbands and other helpers, including relatives and babysitters. The columnist argues that the backlash exposes a contradiction: people say raising children takes a village, yet judge mothers for using support. The discussion also highlights the unequal share of childcare and parenting’s mental load carried by women.